There have been a couple co-workers having babies recently and it got me thinking about our birth experience with Saige and with Ryder.  I just love to think back to those days.  This time around with Saige was a bit different, my water didn’t break right away.  I had lied down to take a nap with Ryder and started to have these weird feelings in my belly (since I had never experienced the slow onset of contractions I wasn’t fully sure what these were- thought possibly braxton hicks or maybe just gas- b/c I tend to be gassy with my pregnancies). So I continued to lay there but I called Doug just in case and told him he should probably come home ( I should preface this – with Ryder my water broke and 3 hours later he was born so I was a bit concerned about how fast Saige would come).  Doug was hesitating a bit and I told him to just start wrapping things up and I would call him back in 20 minutes and see how the contractions were going. In the meantime one of my co-workers called me and she said these were contractions and to get off the phone. At that time I had finally realized – yes these were contractions because they were getting a bit stronger.  So I told Doug to get home fast. 
It’s hard the second time around because you have to figure out what to do with the toddler.  We don’t have any family that live out here so we had to rely on friends and they all have jobs.  Luckily my girlfriend was home that day and she came by to pick up Ryder until our other friend could get off of work and pick him up.  So off went Ryder and off went mom and dad to the doctor’s office. Oh ya, back up a bit, I had a doctor’s appointment scheduled for that day and I had called the office and they said to just come in a bit early and they would check to see if this was the real thing. At my last appointment I had vowed I was not going to be going to that appointment- that I would have already had the baby (she was a bit late and Ryder was 2 weeks early).  As we drove to the doctor (which is 30 minutes away) the contractions began to get closer together (5 minutes apart) so we just went straight to the hospital. 
I was only 3cm at the time so we started to walk the halls to move it along.  My doctor was going to be coming by around 4:45 to break my water for me.  While we waited, I sat on the birthing ball and Doug held his fist in my lower back ( oh ya, we were having back labor again) and we watched the cooking network (that didn’t last too long).  Doug made me laugh so hard that my water broke all on its own.  Then the real fun began…….
Within a matter of minutes the contractions really came on and so began the primal rituals of getting on all fours to relieve the pressure in my back and within 30 minutes or so the nurse told me to let her know when I needed to push and I think it was the next contraction when I said I’m going to start pushing and 3 pushes later out popped a beautiful baby girl (again delivered by the nurses- the doctor didn’t make it in time- same thing happened with Ryder). 
mom,dad & saige
It’s just such an amazing experience.  I didn’t use any drugs for either births and am so happy to have experienced them that way.  Ryder’s birth was very similar except that my water broke before any contractions began and the doctor figured since it was my first it would take awhile but – nope- 3 hours only.
We video taped the end of Saige’s birth and I am so happy to be able to go back and watch it. When you are there and the pain is so overwhelming it’s hard to remember everything and it’s so great to see it all unfold again.  It all happened so fast that after she came out the nurses put her on me immediately and we were so wrapped up in the moment no one told us what we had just had.  Finally one of the nurses remembered we didn’t know what the sex of the baby was- so that was pretty funny.  At that point it doesn’t matter – all that mattered was the baby was in my arms. 
Doug is the best partner ever for birthing. He helped me tremendously- he was able to calm my breathing and help me focus.  It was truly a partnership. 
I love hearing birth stories so if any of you would like to share your stories with me and possibly others (I can make a special “birth” page) to read.  I think it’s so nice to hear all the wonderful stories. So often when you are pregnant people want to share all the “bad”/awful birth experiences and people get freaked out and think that there is no way they could handle birthing naturally.  But women have done it that way for centuries.  You have to put your mind in a different place trust your body and your partner and know that you will be strong and get through it.  This time around I read Hypnobirthing and listened to the relaxation CD’s.  I didn’t quite achieve hypnobirthing but it was another tool for me to have while I was birthing.  
I am not trying to tell people how to do it or that if you decide to have an epidural your making a bad decision, I just want women out there to know that they are strong and that they can do it if they believe and want to.  The main thing is to have your birth experience be safe for you and your baby – because it doesn’t always go as planned- you have to go with the flow sometimes.  We almost had to have an emergency Cesarean with Ryder (they lost the heartbeat for a second- and they don’t mess around with that) but I rolled to another side and it came back – he must have been on the cord. But I knew whatever needed to be done to keep my baby safe was the main goal.  Luckily everything was fine and he came out 2 pushes later.
dad,ryder & saige
I look forward to hearing your amazing stories.
Thanks for sharing